Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Thank You!

Newton said for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, right? Well, I think for every prayer request we should have an equal if not stronger praise party. With that in mind - party on!

We got the following update from Ethiopia this morning regarding our little girl's condition:

Thanks to God Meron gets better she continuous to take the medicine that we mentioned yesterday, her breathing is normal also her feeding condition returns to normal she sucks actively she is not febrile her cough is minimized, vomiting stops, to day we are so much happy with her progress she laughs.
God's timing is His and it's always perfect. Sometimes we try to own it and make it ours. Sometimes it fits right in my daily planner and I'm happy with it and other times it seems like God might be screening my calls.

And then there are those times like last night - when it feels like God heard not only me but all the prayers that you guys prayed on our daughter's behalf and He said "I got ya covered."

Thank you so much to everybody who reached out to us last night and who stopped what they were doing to pray with us.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Trusting God

We just found out that our little girl was admitted to the hospital in Ethiopia today. Nothing like being 8,000 miles away from your sick child to make ya feel completely useless.

But then it hit us - wait a minute - we're not useless. God gave us a pretty useful and meaningful method of communicating with Him. And that's what we are going to do. We are going to pray on our daughter's behalf and ask for a quick recovery and continued health until we can get her home.

Why prayer isn't my first thought is beyond me - it really should be. It should trump all feelings of despair, fear and helplessness. We are trying to be better at that.

If you have time and some extra room in your prayer and want to send one up for our little girl it would be greatly appreciated!

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Wow...God speaks from my desktop.

Okay, so many of you know I am having a really hard time waiting on a court date and then travel to bring out little girl home, but we don't even have the clearance from the Ethiopian goverment for my agency to even apply for a court date. All we have been told is that the clearance has not been received. We have been given no further explanation...

So, on my desk at home I have a little daily Max Lucado calendar that my mom gave me and I read the little note on it each day. You will NOT believe what yesterday's said!

I quote:

Do not bemoan passing time, applaud it. The more you drink from God's well, the more you urge the clock to tick. Every bump of the second hand brings you closer to a completed adoption.
As Paul writes: "We wait anxiously for that day when God will give us full rights as his children" (Romans 8:23).

Need I say more? I got it, God, I got it. I will wait.


Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Heavy Hearts...

Right now that is in Africa. And right now our hearts are very, very heavy. We were saddened today to hear terrible news from another family who was waiting to go bring home their son. Last night their son passed away while still in Ethiopia.

We have gotten to know them briefly through email and their blog. They too are adopting from China and they too decided to head to Ethiopia during their wait. They ended up using the same agency as us and their son was at the same orphanage as Brighton Asher was and where our daughter currently is.

Their story is all too familiar to us. Laura and I experienced a flood of emotions today upon hearing this news. Our hearts - nowhere near recovered from our news in January - were ripped back open by this.

I am not sure we will ever understand this situation in Africa - I am not sure we are even capable of understanding it. But God - if you happen to drop by this blog today - could you please hug that family a little tighter tonight? I know they could use it.

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Dropping Knowledge

This past Friday happened to be the first Friday in the month of April. This meant two things for us:
  1. Time is flying by!
  2. It was time for another First Friday get together
This particular First Friday was very relevant for us - Dan and Susan had put together a presentation that spoke about Adoption as "The Perfect Storm" and they detailed what to expect that first week after being united with your son or daughter.

Some "been there done that" families gave us their perspective of things and talked about very serious things like rejection, grief, sleep deprivation and attachment issues among other things. This was all super important for us to hear and think about since hopefully in about two more First Friday's time we'll be getting on a plane to head to Africa.

One of the best things they did was give us a handout that really painted a descriptive picture of the grief that our children will go through as they process through the leaving of their birth mother then attaching to a caregiver and then leaving that caregiver to come to us.

Wow. It's a lot to think about for me as an adult - I can't imagine these little children having to process it in their minds and hearts. If you have never experienced adoption or the grief that the children inevitably experience or did not get a chance to read the letter - please do so here - it really helped us to understand what our daughter will be experiencing when she is first getting to know us and we are getting to know her.

It's sometimes easy to think "Well - as an infant or younger child things will be okay" but the fact is that even the little ones experience this intense grief. Their journey doesn't start the day they are handed over to some strangers - it has been going on from the moment they were born. Our daughter will hurt - and we will hurt for her. Her nanny will hurt - and we will hurt for her. Reading this letter did a lot to help us understand this process.

Thanks to the Chapmans once again for putting this event together month after month - and particularly this month for dropping some excellent knowledge that we really needed to hear.