Friday, July 13, 2018

Ewwww. I'm stuck between two dark people...


The girls have been regular swimmers at the YMCA this summer and they LOVE it. They're really a couple of fish.

But when they came out of the locker room today after my quick treadmill run - something seemed off.

"How was swimming?" I asked 'em...

Meron was quick to respond:

"It was great except for the girl who made a racist comment about us."
Whoa... pump the brakes...

WHAT?

She went on to explain that about 20 minutes in to swimming, they climbed out to get in line for the slide - and a girl was in between Mebbie and Meron. This girl looked at them both - then turned and looked right at Mebbie and said:

"Ewwww. I'm stuck between two dark people."

It was all I could do to maintain my composure.

"Take me to her," I said.

They tried but we couldn't find her - it looked like her and her mom had left.

I shared the details with the front desk - but with little they could do - we left to head home.

Meron was MAD.

Mebbie was HURT.

Zechie was UPSET that somebody hurt his sisters.

And me? Well I was waffling between wanting to cry at the shameful place our country has become and wanting to punch things.

And in it all... here is why I love my crew so much.

We jumped in the van and had THE ABSOLUTE BEST conversation ever.

Real stuff. Tears. Anger. Authenticity.

I know my kids' feelings well because they feel free and safe to share them.

And they know their daddy ain't taking crap from anybody when it comes to them.


When I posted earlier this year after we had some similar comments during an incident at the school - I had some people argue pretty strongly that "racism wasn't any worse these days." That it's "not just against black or brown people." All kinds of disgusting white privilege arguments.

I wish they knew how stupid they sound.

The leaders of our country have empowered and awakened a sleeping giant called racism. They have given it the confidence to remove its "hood" and be loud and proud with the hate and superior white privilege complex that is running rampant in our country these days.

And if you don't see it - you are willfully ignorant.


Ultimately - this girl here is who i was most concerned with. She was quiet as we headed out to grab dinner... close to tears it seemed.

We chatted a lot - and when I asked her how it made her feel she said:
"Why would she say that? She made me feel so less and so not worth anything..."
Tonight - after we watched a movie as a whole crew (and I fell asleep in between my beautiful brown children - no "ewww" involved)... I made the signs up there and showed them to Mebbie.

"What do you think?" I asked her.

"It's perfect daddy," she said. "And it's true. I AM stronger than that."

And she is. All of them are.

I stand in awe of all they have overcome and all they continue to stare down and do it with grace and humility and strength.

Some people are like "Dude... Tymm... yo talk about race and racism a lot..."

And to that I say: "Yep. And I'll keep talking til it's no longer a relevant subject with anything left to talk about..."

And P.S.A. for anybody inclined to show their true self to my kids, my self or my family in any manner... we're calling folks like you out. So stop being racists.

Racism still sucks...

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