Thursday, September 20, 2018

Hey Hey Hey... Goodbye!

Seasons. I love 'em.

Fall is my favorite one but out here in Colorado they are all pretty dope.

I think Solomon (and Pete Seeger and eventually The Byrds) said it best when he said:

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, & a time to die; a time to plant, a time to reap that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Seasons. They're not all the same - but they have one thing in common - we eventually say "GOODBYE!" to them.

And so it is with people who are seasonal in our lives as well. Lately we have had to let go of some seasonal people that in hindsight - maybe should have never even been a season at all.

I mean - if our time together looks and feels more like the 1990 Yankees season (a train wreck) - then maybe... just maybe... we weren't really in a season of friendship anyway.

There are really only a handful of reasons I would ever block or ban somebody from our world (especially in social media). And contrary to popular belief... not agreeing with me isn't one of those reasons.

It's simple really.

1. You're dangerous to my family
You've threatened my family in any way (death threats... yep... received 'em). You engage and promote a dialogue or rhetoric that is directly or indirectly dangerous to my family and families like mine. You got to go. Unapologetically. Bye. There's only been a few of these.

2. You're just plain mean and ugly
You're passive aggressive. You wrap your hateful differences up in an "I love you and your family" sandwich. Out one side of your mouth you tell me how hateful I am, how clueless I am, how self-righteous and arrogant I am and then in the same breath tell me you love me and always have.

Or maybe you've spent two years always looking for a fight around things you disagree with me on. I've played along - time and time again - listened to your lop-sided narrative, your false claims on facts, your incredibly emotionally charged responses... and you finally crossed a line. Maybe you used my kids names in a manner I'm not fond of... all the while smiling and telling me and those around me how much you are "for me" or "on my side."

Possibly you've been disrespectful, ugly, curt and hateful towards me and those I care about. Perhaps you've let your emotions control your communication - and that's never good. It's even possible that your hateful tunnel-vision has caused you to think my writing is strictly about YOU. Silly rabbit... those kind of tricks are for kids.

In these cases - and it's just been a few - you got to go. Unapologetically. Bye.

Trust me when I say there are a LOT of people who disagree with me.


But HOW we disagree matters a lot. How we communicate matters.

Some mediums are better for it than others - and some people are better at leveraging mediums than others.

As we watch the temperatures change, the sun set earlier and leaves start to color... I know this much...

I am looking forward to this change of season!

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